The Self-Coaching Club: Turn your ”Inner Bully” into a Trusted Ally

Episode Title: Shadow Dance: Embracing What We’re Told to Hide
We all have parts of ourselves we’ve been told to hide — our shadow. But what if those hidden pieces aren’t something to fear, but an invitation to grow?
In this episode, Mercy walks you through the process of understanding your shadow self and learning to bring it into God’s light with grace and compassion.
You’ll discover:
What “shadow work” really means (and why everyone has one)
How hidden parts of you show up in daily life — often without you realizing it
Practical, faith-based steps to embrace your shadow instead of fighting it
A gentle guided reflection to meet and listen to your shadow self
How to let God’s light shine even in the parts you’d rather hide
🎧 Press play and join the shadow dance — because the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness cannot overcome it.

ver wonder why certain things still hurt you more than they “should”? Or why you find yourself reacting in ways you can’t always explain?
In this opening episode of The Inside Out Journey series, we’re talking about the tender, often hidden part of you that still carries your earliest dreams, fears, and unmet needs — your inner child.
You’ll discover:
What the “inner child” really means (without the fluff)
How childhood patterns quietly shape your adult relationships and decisions
Simple, faith-filled steps to reparent yourself with God’s love as your anchor
A gentle guided visualization to meet and comfort the younger you
How healing this part of your heart can deepen your relationship with God and yourself
If you’ve ever longed for more kindness toward yourself, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. God never abandoned the little girl you once were — and it’s time you meet her again.
Scripture mentioned in this episode:
Matthew 18:3 — Become like little children
Psalm 34:18 — God is close to the brokenhearted
Psalm 139:14 — Fearfully and wonderfully made
🎧 Press play and let’s begin the work of healing from the inside out.

Description:In this episode of The Self Coaching Club Podcast, Mercy breaks down the difference between numbing and nurturing—and offers a practical, gentle approach to calming your own nervous system.
If you’ve ever turned to snacks, scrolling, or silence to escape a feeling, this episode will show you a kinder way to come back home to yourself.
You’ll learn:
What self-soothing really means (and what it’s not)
The difference between numbing out and nurturing yourself
10 soothing tools to create your own emotional comfort kit
Why comforting yourself builds self-trust and emotional peace
Whether you’re new to inner work or just ready to ditch the guilt around rest, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and grounded.
🟡 Mentioned in this episode:
Grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1 technique)
Vagus nerve calming tip
“Noticing walks”
Journaling and voice memos for emotional release
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Episode Title: 25 Tiny Ways to Be Kinder to YourselfHosted by: Mercy Rice
Episode Summary:In this gentle, uplifting episode, Mercy shares 25 small yet powerful ways to be kinder to yourself in everyday life. From softening your self-talk to honoring your energy, these ideas are practical, encouraging, and easy to try. Whether you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or just a little too hard on yourself lately, this episode offers a reset—and a reminder that you are worthy of compassion, especially your own.
What You’ll Learn:• How to notice and shift harsh self-talk• Simple ways to slow down and tune into your needs• Quick habits that create emotional safety and peace• Why small acts of kindness toward yourself can spark big changes
Mentioned in This Episode:– The power of using your name when speaking to yourself– Creating a “kind words” folder for the hard days– Learning to rest without guilt
Take It Further:Pick one of the 25 suggestions and try it today. Keep a journal of what changes when you practice self-kindness on purpose.

🎧 Show Notes
Episode Title: How to Argue Well: Turning Conflict into ConnectionEpisode Length: ~20 minutesHost: Mercy Rice, Self-Coaching Advocate & Inner Work Mentor
Episode Summary:Ever wish you could say what’s on your mind without it turning into a full-blown argument? In today’s episode, we explore how to argue well—with clarity, compassion, and confidence. Mercy breaks down practical tools like neutral language, “I” statements, and the Facts–Story–Ask model from Crucial Conversations to help you communicate without triggering defenses. You’ll also learn the common pitfalls that derail productive conversations and how to avoid them.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why arguing well is a life skill worth mastering
The power of neutral, non-blaming language
How to use “I” statements to express yourself clearly
The Facts–Story–Ask method to avoid assumptions
Common traps that shut people down—and how to avoid them
Self-reflection questions to improve how you show up in tough conversations
Resources Mentioned:
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan & Switzler

📄 Show Notes
🎙️ The Self Coaching Club PodcastEpisode: Why Am I Like This? — Understanding Your Patterns Without Shame
Episode Summary:If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do I always do this?” or “What’s wrong with me?”—this episode is for you. Mercy walks you through the common emotional patterns we develop in childhood, how they show up in adult life, and how to gently shift from self-judgment to self-awareness. Learn how to notice your habits, meet yourself with compassion, and take one small step toward healing.
What You’ll Learn:
Why emotional patterns aren’t flaws—they’re protectors
How to trace your triggers and habits back to their root
A powerful self-coaching prompt to shift from shame to curiosity
One simple awareness practice to try this week

🔹 Episode Summary:
Friendships don't thrive on autopilot. In this heartfelt episode, Mercy Rice shares how to care for and maintain your friendships with intention, grace, and just the right amount of emotional honesty. Whether you're feeling distant from your circle or simply want to be more present for your people, this episode gives you self-coaching prompts, practical tips, and a little friendship homework to help you reconnect—starting with yourself.
🔹 What You’ll Learn:
Why the idea of “effortless” friendship is a myth
Three powerful self-coaching questions to reflect on your relationships
Five soulful ways to nurture and maintain your friendships
A gentle reminder that not all friendships are forever—and that’s okay
A small but meaningful challenge to help you show up today
🔹 Friendship Homework:
Reach out to one friend today—with no agenda. Just a simple check-in or a “thinking of you” message. Small gestures build strong bonds.
🔹 Perfect For You If:
You’ve been feeling disconnected from your friends
You’re craving deeper connection but aren’t sure where to start
You want to become more intentional about how you show up in relationships
You’re navigating friendship changes or transitions

✨ Episode Summary:
In this honest, low-lift episode, I get real about the days when her energy is gone and her soul feels heavy. Instead of pretending to have it all together, I  share five simple self-coaching practices that help me navigate seasons of exhaustion with grace, gentleness, and emotional honesty.
If you’re feeling stretched too thin, emotionally tired, or simply over it—this conversation will help you feel seen, supported, and a little less alone.
💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why being tired is not a personal failure
How to lower the bar without guilt
The importance of naming what you feel
Why tiny wins absolutely count
A simple way to decide what to carry and what to release
🛠️ Self-Coaching Prompt:
“What emotion am I actually feeling beneath this exhaustion?”
“What can I let go of today—mentally, emotionally, or physically?”
❤️ Reminder:
You are allowed to rest.You do not need to explain your fatigue.Even your most tired self deserves compassion.
🔁 Share This Episode:
Know someone who’s running on empty?Send them this episode as a gentle reminder: they are not alone, and they don’t need to be superhuman to be valuable.

What You’ll Learn:
The definition of a trigger (spoiler: it’s unique to YOU)
Why emotional triggers can feel out of proportion—and what that actually reveals
The difference between what happened and what got activated inside you
How to separate someone’s intention from the impact it had on you
5 journal prompts to help you unpack your next trigger instead of spiraling
Why “control” isn’t the goal—awareness is
Practical self-coaching tools to respond, not react
How triggers are invitations for deeper healing, not signs of weakness

Have you ever found yourself picking fights, overcommitting, or stirring up unnecessary drama—right when things are finally going well?
In this episode, Mercy explores why emotional peace can feel boring (or even unsafe) for those of us used to chaos. She unpacks the science behind your nervous system’s response to calm, shares how we subconsciously sabotage our own peace, and offers four practical self-coaching tools to help you stay present during quiet, healthy seasons.
What You’ll Learn:
Why we mistake calm for boredom
The hidden reason peace makes us uncomfortable
Signs you might be stirring up chaos unconsciously
Four simple tools to embrace calm without sabotaging it
A coaching question you can use all week
Inner Work Challenge:Every time you feel bored or restless this week, pause and ask:👉 “What would a peaceful version of me do right now?”